III. Main Theme

The deep desire mutual complementation unites both of you including the hope it brings of harmonious togetherness. Each partner represents personality aspects which the other is lacking. 7he tension generated by your contrasts aims to be and must be discharged - it produces the amount of energy both of you need to deal with essentials within your relationship, with all its pitfalls and challenges.

Every relationship between individuals who feel bound to each another by a union of souls and who, as a result, become implicated in emotional and material dependencies, is characterized by a life theme extremely important for both partners. The main theme of a relationship runs through the partnership like a gold thread. It shows what has brought two people together at an unconscious level and what they would like to learn together and further develop in the course of their partnership.

During your first encounter both of you had the deep, subconscious wish to bring harmony and balance in your lives. You wanted to learn how to come to terms with other individuals, even when they are entirely different from you in respect to nature and lifestyle.

As a team, it is also easier for both of you to coordinate various spheres of life such as profession and private life, daily duties and hobbies so that no one area has to suffer. Since significant differences will also exist in your separate circumstances, the first task in this relationship will be to create a common foundation which allows you to develop your respective abilities, despite differences in your readiness to cooperate with one another. Slowly getting to know each other, the necessity of making compromises, settling disagreements or making new sacrifices for the sake of peace can demand a great deal of energy from you. Taking it up with the beautiful things in life - painting, music, theater or relaxing visits with friends and acquaintances - is a ready compensation for both of you.

Your partnership cannot be placed in any ready-made category of relationship, however. Every attempt at giving this relationship a label may fail: whether you have entered your partner's life as lover, child, co-worker, teacher, mother or father is not important at a deeper level. Essential is helping each other find your own truths and then following them.

The Most Important Sphere of Life

Even though the main theme of a relationship touches all spheres of life for both partners, one very particular area acquires special significance through this union. This area determines the life stage upon which the partners act, it determines the backdrop for the plot and, finally, it shows where the most intensive and formative experiences are possible for both individuals.

In your common activities the domestic sphere and the family have a special significance. For this reason, each of you will be confronted with aspects of your emotional lives and needs during the course of this relationship. Essential themes will be your childhood experiences, your current relationship with your family members as well as questions concerning a place to live and where you can actually feel at home. Together, you will find it easier to address wishes and desires for security and devotion which are often unconscious or suppressed. Therefore, it will be vital for you to establish a protected environment where both of you and loved ones can feel safe and content. If one of you withdraws from too much intimacy, painful childhood experiences or difficult relations with family members could well be the reason. This relationship can help both of you become conscious of outdated behavioral patterns from the past, and possibly, to part with them.